Press On

Rhythm and routine have become a vital part of my progress. So every morning starts with Bible Study, reading, prayer, and speaking positive scriptures over my life.

Currently I’m studying A Jewel in His Crown and this morning a few passages jumped out at me:

  • Even if you’ve gotten out of the mud of debt or mistakes in your past, that is not enough. You’ve got to change clothes and stop wearing that pain around or else “your identity is being ruined by the dirty puddle of the past.”
  • “Your friends know that your self-esteem has been demolished by the mud of your past. They probably aren’t going to tell you that. They are just going to pity you right out of the self-esteem that is rightfully yours.”
  • “The God of the universe …  has already given you a new beginning, a new name, and a new purpose for living. “

Wow! It’s important to lean the difference between addressing the past and living there. Pity is an addictive narcotic. It’s easy to hunger for that pity and want to be defined by:

  • Past addictions
  • Past loss
  • Past disappointments
  • Past failures

But what all these things have in common is that they are in the past.

I flipped over to Power Thoughts, which is the book I’m reading right now. The first thing I read is

“Your past can be am unbearably heavy load when you try to carry it into your present.”

This is immediately followed by another:

“If you feel disappointment due to the mistakes of the past, it is time to shake it off and get reappointed. Your future has no room in it for the past!“

Ok, God, you have my attention. What do you want me to learn?

Joyce quotes a verse in the next paragraph so I opened it in my Bible.

“Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭3:13-14‬ 

Paul recognized that holding on to the past, both its success and failures, is a hinderance to moving forward.

I’m not defined by my battle with addiction; it’s in the past. I’m not defined by my 3.96 GPA; it’s in the past. I’m not defined by my mistakes on Monday; it’s in the past. I’m not defined by losing my father, losing my mother, and becoming an orphan; it’s all in the past.

“You get sympathy for your struggles but you earn respect by overcoming them.”

I have no idea where I first head that quote but it’s one I’ve repeated it for years. And it’s true. There is no glory in suffering for the sake of suffering.

I moved to set the Bible aside and I saw the beginning of verse 15:

“Therefore let us, as many as are mature, have this mind…” (emphasis mine).

Wow, ability to move on from the past is a sign of maturity. And today it’s time to grow up.

I told my cousin that I was working on a blog about letting go of the past. She said that she thinks the past is valuable and we shouldn’t forget. I agree. The past should not be forgotten… it just shouldn’t be carried into our present. But that’s a blog for another day. 💖

4 responses to “Press On”

  1. Christmas time. It’s filled with so many memories. Then again there’s the irony of just how a tragic loss can change so many fond memories surrounding this time of year into such opposite ones. The reason it does is obvious, while the reason it should perhaps isn’t. I don’t feel it’s absolutely necessary to forget anyone or anything from a pleasant, joyous and wonderful past just to avoid the experience of a miserable present. Should one be longing for the past or forget and simply move on? I say leave those holes for some vintage Swiss cheese to sport, and not put those same voids in the memories you have stored in your brain. The idea that you won’t have anymore experiences exactly like those you’ve had with those same precious loved ones ever again doesn’t, and shouldn’t, mean that you won’t ever have any more that are as good or even better. The future doesn’t need to be made jealous of the past. Those special memories of the past with your folks are a precious legacy, and the trick, if there is one to learn, is finding out for yourself just how and when to open which box of memories, not unlike a traditional Christmas tree. You know there are boxes meant just for you, ones containing the joy of the past, and learning how to open just those special boxes, one after another, and do it without opening all of the other boxes hiding under that same tree is the challenge. Making those choices effortlessly and naturally is something that for most seem to get easier with merely the passing of time.

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  2. Perhaps with your lost so new, memories need to be set aside for a time and new activities and traditions need to be tried. There isn’t a day that goes by the I don’t think of my mom and/or dad. We have so many happy memories and things that trigger memories of them. Things they taught us, things they said, and things of theirs that I use. It is a comfort now to think of them.

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  3. […] Dust yourself off and write a new chapter today about embracing the process and pressing on toward the goal. Make today count and refuse to quit on yourself. […]

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  4. […] through the emails this morning, my heart aches for these other victims. I wish they could find the freedom I’ve discovered in forgiveness. Holding on to bitterness is like drinking poison hoping it kills […]

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